2017 Resolutions vs Intentions

New Year Resolutions vs. Intentions. Plus an introduction to Travelling Sarong Pants.

Running on Chemo showing off sarong pants in Angkor Wat
Sarong Pants visiting Angkor Wat

It’s that time of the year again when blog posts about new year resolutions and planning to stick to them abound. One of my favourite blogs, Live Your Legend, whipped up the whole post about it together with a toolkit how to actually get on with sticking to the 2017 resolve once you had got yourself into the goal setting mode. I’m very much in two minds about the whole New Year resolutions business, but I am also in two minds about setting intention for each yoga class which says something about my commitment capabilities. And because whatever pops in my head when the intention/goal setting pressure mounts, turns out to be either super puny or grandiose, in between does not seem to exist.

So, how about some durable and rounded intentions that can help with the actual goal setting when the time comes? Here it goes:

May I Be Kind

– to myself and by extension to the world. It’s easy to fall into a trap of thinking that there is no aiming high without laser focus, extensive planning, self battering into getting things done and of course leaving no room for a failure. In reality, high achievements come from a place of self-belief, kindness, repeated failures and giving back to the world – even if it’s giving back to a very limited slice of the world. Being kind does not invalidate resilience, ambition, effectiveness and focus on action, if anything it enhances all these qualities that translate into aiming high and achieving just as high. I bet FTSE 100 CEOs would collectively agree.

May I Be Patient

– I have spent most of 2016 in a rush to jam a lot into my now potentially limited lifespan. A common side effect of cancer survivorship. Yet looking through a wider lense: none of us knows how long we have left so maybe embracing a cliche that all pieces will fall into place when ready, may be a way to go. According to Richard Branson “opportunities are like buses, there’s always another one coming” – that’s another post-it note that is going on to my headboard world map in 2017.

Buddha Face on the back gate to Ta Prohm Temple
Buddha Face reminder of an aim to eliminate constricting desires vel. hold-ups.

May I Be … Me

– I had spent 2014 seamlessly fitting into expectations of my then boyfriend, 2015 gave way to fitting into a cancer patient narrative, and even though there’s been a lot of kicking and screaming so that it would not define me, in the end I became Cancer Me. 2016 meant a complete reset on the scorched earth of my cancer treatment and failed relationship, and working on freeing myself from the hold-ups of my own design. The true Buddhist Nirvana is still far away and likely not what I would aim for anyway but Being Me, the 2017 True To My Guts Me, is already getting there as some serious inroads have already been laid down.

When I sat to write all these I thought I was on the way to conclude that in ‘resolutions vs. intentions’ competition any resolution would end up a sore looser. Yet in the process I did come up with a good, and a totally viable, one – I am taking my sarong pants to at least three new places in 2017. Not to make it too easy the pants adventures will be limited to the surroundings that fit the attire so Nepal for sure … more ideas to follow – I am told they would come in useful when joining a Meditation Retreat.

All in all for My Sarong Pants and The Project Me, I hereby declare that the best is yet to come!

 

Wanderlust Notes – Cambodia AKA the Land of Deep Fried Tarantula

Running On Chemo on a Mekong River Cruise
Running on Chemo on Mekong River – Fresh Water Dolphins Sanctuary and Flooded Forrest Kayak Trip
Ankgor Wat water reflection
I know it’s cheesy but I did get a shot of Angkor Wat reflection – #shamelesstourist
Ta Prohm Temple back view
Ta Prohm Temple

WANDERLUST STOP 1 – CAMBODIA ON BIKE AND KAYAK

To Travel Is to Live said Hans Christian Andersen and it should ring so very true to any fellow ‘travel bug’ sufferer. I’m all for the mindful being in the present, it’s just that being in the present and experiencing the moment fully, happens to be just that much easier when your bags are packed.

Ta Prohm Temple inside view
Ta Prohm Temple

The unfortunate July foot versus taxi incident delayed my Nepal plan and made for a super slow Halloween 10k but it also meant that I could swap rather cold and wet November London for a southeast Asian escape from reality.

I got to kayak through the flooded forest of Mekong, mountain bike around Angkor complex, which gives you access to beautiful small and out-of-the-way temples minus the usual crowds, spend a night on the tiny island next door to a floating fishing village and eat my way through the Siem Reap food market (I might have picked up some sarong pants there too, not my proudest moment I admit).

Running on Chemo on a mountain bike Ankgor tour
Running on Chemo on the bike – Padded Shorts Time

Did I feel more alive than on my daily commute, sweating buckets on the spin bike together with the fellow corporate drones or getting through the December Christmas parties’ slog? Not necessarily, but rubbing shoulders with the 6am breakfast crowd at the busy market in Steung Teng or getting soaked by a hot downpour in the empty and now drowned streets of Siem Reap feels just that much more real. Hence stopping in a moment and bringing the breath in and out mindfulness habit alive happens pretty much on its own.

Home Stay on Koh Trong Island
Koh Trong Island – Night on the Mekong River

Thanks to a bout of red-eye flight migraine I didn’t get to see the killing fields and the Tuol Sleng Prison Museum in Phnom Penh – sombering reminders of the tragic Cambodian history and a chilling  warning where the post Brexit and POTUS Trump times of cheap radical propaganda could lead us.

SOME UNEXPECTED CHANGE OF PLAN NOTES

I did get to see the Cambodian hospital instead and got to appreciate the dark side of travel bug problem, having hydration packs and promethazine at hand as well as a valid travel insurance – silver linings abound when you get sick on holiday 😉  As much as it was a disappointment, such last-minute hiccup is a great way to keep one’s wanderlust in check – there’s never really enough time and the world is bloody big and that is okay, actually.

Angkor Thom Temple Moat
Angkor Thom Temple

This is exactly what H. C. Andersen must have meant – if travel is to live then it can’t ever be completed. It’s best to just embrace it and work on a collection of  places to get back to, be it dune surfing in Morocco, some dark history lessons or a lazy day on a beach – an ever growing itinerary for a journey through already familiar places seems to me like a good way to Be.

To finish with another quote – consistency is the playground of dull minds said Yuval Noah Harari in his brilliant Sapiens: A Brief History of Humankind which I happened to be reading on the flight back. What an awesome thought to kick-start 2017!

 

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