New Year Resolutions vs. Intentions. Plus an introduction to Travelling Sarong Pants.
It’s that time of the year again when blog posts about new year resolutions and planning to stick to them abound. One of my favourite blogs, Live Your Legend, whipped up the whole post about it together with a toolkit how to actually get on with sticking to the 2017 resolve once you had got yourself into the goal setting mode. I’m very much in two minds about the whole New Year resolutions business, but I am also in two minds about setting intention for each yoga class which says something about my commitment capabilities. And because whatever pops in my head when the intention/goal setting pressure mounts, turns out to be either super puny or grandiose, in between does not seem to exist.
So, how about some durable and rounded intentions that can help with the actual goal setting when the time comes? Here it goes:
May I Be Kind
– to myself and by extension to the world. It’s easy to fall into a trap of thinking that there is no aiming high without laser focus, extensive planning, self battering into getting things done and of course leaving no room for a failure. In reality, high achievements come from a place of self-belief, kindness, repeated failures and giving back to the world – even if it’s giving back to a very limited slice of the world. Being kind does not invalidate resilience, ambition, effectiveness and focus on action, if anything it enhances all these qualities that translate into aiming high and achieving just as high. I bet FTSE 100 CEOs would collectively agree.
May I Be Patient
– I have spent most of 2016 in a rush to jam a lot into my now potentially limited lifespan. A common side effect of cancer survivorship. Yet looking through a wider lense: none of us knows how long we have left so maybe embracing a cliche that all pieces will fall into place when ready, may be a way to go. According to Richard Branson “opportunities are like buses, there’s always another one coming” – that’s another post-it note that is going on to my headboard world map in 2017.
May I Be … Me
– I had spent 2014 seamlessly fitting into expectations of my then boyfriend, 2015 gave way to fitting into a cancer patient narrative, and even though there’s been a lot of kicking and screaming so that it would not define me, in the end I became Cancer Me. 2016 meant a complete reset on the scorched earth of my cancer treatment and failed relationship, and working on freeing myself from the hold-ups of my own design. The true Buddhist Nirvana is still far away and likely not what I would aim for anyway but Being Me, the 2017 True To My Guts Me, is already getting there as some serious inroads have already been laid down.
When I sat to write all these I thought I was on the way to conclude that in ‘resolutions vs. intentions’ competition any resolution would end up a sore looser. Yet in the process I did come up with a good, and a totally viable, one – I am taking my sarong pants to at least three new places in 2017. Not to make it too easy the pants adventures will be limited to the surroundings that fit the attire so Nepal for sure … more ideas to follow – I am told they would come in useful when joining a Meditation Retreat.
All in all for My Sarong Pants and The Project Me, I hereby declare that the best is yet to come!